I have often been judged while raising my son, Brandon. People pointed and stared at us yelling rude comments screaming out, “You’re a terrible mother. Can’t you control your child? Your child is a spoiled brat, he’s a rude jerk.” Those were just a few of the comments I heard while Brandon was growing up. If they only knew what I had to deal with everyday in order to get my special needs son and myself ready and out of the house. Maybe then they would not be so quick to judge us.
I began to think about what makes a person a judger? I believe a person judges others because they think they know it all and their way is right and the only way. They are not willing to be flexible or take the time to see another person’s perspective. They are stuck in their own beliefs and appear to be extremely rigid.
I have to admit I used to judge people too. That was thirty-eight years ago before Brandon was born. My life was easy, carefree and I was young and thought I had it all. I even thought I knew it all. After raising Brandon I know for sure I do not know it all and I never will and I no longer judge anyone anymore.
I have worked hard with Brandon over the years to help him understand the best way to deal with people who judge. Today, Brandon and I still have those who judge around us, but now we know how to handle them better. Although we do not like what they say or how they act or how they treat us we no longer react. We quickly remove ourselves from these situations whenever possible.
I am afraid that there will always be people who judge, those who do things differently. Being on the autism trail for over thirty-eight years I am sure you can imagine what we have heard. Today, Brandon and I have become strong. We are able to let the comments roll off our backs and we leave the negativity where it belongs, with those who judge.