Dear Sir or Madam: My Son Has Autism

Dear Sir or Madam,

Dear Sir, While I understand full well the obnoxious noise my son is making I do not particularly care if it bothers you. You see it bothers me too, but neither of us can stop it. He has as much right to be in the grocery store as you do. Please understand that this in no way entitles you to roll your eyes and whisper what a bad parent I am. Come spend a day with us, then make your judgment.

 Dear Sir, When you say things like “better you than me” your right. Congratulations.

 Dear Madam, Before you whisper to your husband that I cannot handle my children and shouldn’t have had another one, please check your hearing aid. Everyone in isle three heard you.

 Dear Sir, I did not share with you my sons autism because I wanted pity. I told you because your child is trying to talk to him and being ignored. Your child is getting upset at this. Perhaps if you concentrated on your child and not what mine was doing we could fix this.

 Dear Madam, My son being autistic does not magically make him a genius any more than asking stupid questions makes you a game show host.

 Dear Madam, Please let me decide if we can handle it. What I can handle is none of your business and your opinion does not matter

 Dear Sir, When I ask my son to look towards you when speaking , do not tell him it’s fine. He has been working very hard to be more social and he needs these skills.

 Dear Madam, If you are uncomfortable with my child playing with yours then by all means leave the play ground. My child is autistic, not dying or diseased. Your child will not catch what he has.

 Dear Madam, Behavior chart means just that BEHAVIOR. That does not mean turning in your ridiculous paper. While I can truly appreciate your wanting to teach independence to your second grade class,my son does have autism. He still struggles with hanging up his coat, eating with utensils and remembering which stop to get off the bus. Lets work on those first.OK?

 Dear Sir, I am as offended by the overpowering smell of your cologne and your back hair peeking of your shirt as you are with my son hopping up and down saying the funny thing he smells burns his nose. That would be your cologne creating this . Thanks again.

 
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We are currently a family of 7 (yes 7 really) My husband and I have 5 children on earth and one precious baby in heaven. We are Catholic and we are Quiverful. We live in a small town in Southern Massachusetts. We try to live as simply as possible. We are a family of special needs people and we work every day to make this house work
Annemarie Chagnon

Annemarie Chagnon

We are currently a family of 7 (yes 7 really) My husband and I have 5 children on earth and one precious baby in heaven. We are Catholic and we are Quiverful. We live in a small town in Southern Massachusetts. We try to live as simply as possible. We are a family of special needs people and we work every day to make this house work

0 thoughts on “Dear Sir or Madam: My Son Has Autism

  • October 20, 2011 at 3:35 pm
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    twinsMa~ feel free to use it if you feel it would help.

    a_distant memory.~ It was never a scolding really it was a gentle soft reminder and it was a close friend that did so yes she was aware of his issues

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  • October 20, 2011 at 12:49 pm
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    “Dear Sir, When I ask my son to look towards you when speaking , do not tell him it’s fine. He has been working very hard to be more social and he needs these skills.”

    Did this person know your son was autistic? Did he understand what this means in regards to this particular social skill? If so then okay I understand how you may be annoyed though the person was just trying to be accommodating. If they did not know or understand this, then they were probably just trying to spare the kid the embarrassment of being scolded in front of a stranger. 

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  • October 20, 2011 at 12:13 pm
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    People just automatically assume that you’re to blame rather than the fact that no one’s to blame. It’s just a sad fact that has to be dealt with.

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  • October 19, 2011 at 12:20 pm
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    Being an ABA therapist I often forget how easy my life is. I get to walk away after a 3 hour therapy session feeling light as a feather.

    I forget what strength the parents must have to carry on.10000% support from me 🙂

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  • October 19, 2011 at 11:59 am
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    Love this! One of my children’s therapists at KKI gave me a card that says, in essence, “My child has autism, we’re doing the best we can, stop being an asshole.” I’m paraphrasing, of course.

    That we should even need such a thing is sad.

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