A friend of mine made an interesting point: Why should people want us to be medicated for who we are, including if we have difficulty picking up on social cues and others’ feelings?
Her point seems to be: Why should we accommodate people who won’t accept us for who we are – and presumably for how we behave while in ignorance of said cues and feelings?
Well, some things that Aspies do, while not understanding cues and feelings, hurt others. We insult people. We put people between a rock and a hard place by forcing them to express negative things, such as a lack of desire for a date, bluntly. That makes it hard for us to make and keep friends, good jobs, accommodating roommates, and particularly romantic relationships.
We even make it more difficult for people to distinguish actual criminals, in that we sometimes act the same ways that criminals act, such as by peering into people’s windows, staring at and even following people (especially women) and pushing people’s (implicit) boundaries. That means, among other things, that people may call the cops on us. Or even play vigilante and give us a beating…or worse.
Now, some of those real criminals are mighty grateful for the service some of us are providing them. So, they’re happy to accept us for what we are. They’d love us to remain oblivious to people’s thoughts and intentions – especially theirs as they gear up to beat, rob, kidnap, rape and even murder us. The last thing a thug wants is for people to jam his easy-victim sensors or detect and pre-empt his game.
If AS and autism spectrum conditions, in general, are disabilities, for which we can ask for accommodations – and I think they are – don’t we owe it to both ourselves and society to pursue reasonable efforts to alleviate them?
What do you think?