Not taking things personally anymore

Brandon’s brother stood him up once again. When I asked him how he felt he said, “He does this all the time. Mom, I expected it to happen, but I don’t take it personally anymore. It’s his stuff.  He just can’t find time for me.”

This used to make Brandon feel sad and disappointed, but this time he was able to deal with it by not taking it personally.

We have worked very hard in this area so he doesn’t feel terribly hurt when someone doesn’t keep their promise or needs to change the time or date. I was so happy to hear Brandon’s response and so happy it didn’t ruin his day, as it had in the past.

It is fantastic to see Brandon change and develop, especially in an area that has always been so difficult for him.  Having a set routine and having plans that are made in stone are very important to Brandon and to other children and adults who have autism and special needs. When their plans are broken or changed, it can be extremely hard for them to accept.   That is why I am writing about this today, because it was such a huge breakthrough for Brandon.

We must keep on teaching our special needs children and adults all aspects of life and when we do over time it often works.  When we see growth and maturation, it is encouraging, which helps to refuel parents and keep us going.

There is HOPE!

Amalia Starr

Mother to an independent autistic adult son, Motivational Speaker, Author, and Founder of the Autism Independence Foundation. Book Amalia to speak, call 800-939-1046 or attend one of her conferences or training.