Newborns and Children with Autism are like human metaphors for why communication is so important in a relationship.
Without dialogue there is a constant guessing game to understand what is going on with the other person in the relationship. The communication becomes strained and behavior starts to deteriorate. There is crying, sometimes tantrums, and everyone feels helpless and on edge because whatever the problem is there is no way to attend to it without knowledge of it’s origin.
The big or rather huge difference is that adults posess the capability to have that all important dialogue. Unlike babies and autistic children, these are innocents of developmental issues, be it physical immaturity or severe disability. They at least try to convey their thoughts and needs through whatever means possible.
It is hard for me to admit this but I have been in such a non-communicative relationship for many years and sadly am not referring to my Danny boy. I probably have spent more time and effort working on a conversation with him than others I need to repair connections with. Honestly it is probably more comfortable for me because Danny does not talk back and there is no danger of hearing something about myself I don’t want to hear, thus no confrontations.
I feel very foolish that a newborn baby and a disabled child are handling their vulnerable situations better than I.
I will have to pray really hard on this one.