I am thrilled that Autisable is back up and running as it has always been a wonderful platform for myself and so many others. It thrills me to reconnect with all my followers, and I look forward to meeting and connecting with new people to share our feelings, views and especially HOPE.
I often write about how I feel and what is going on in my life with my autistic son, Brandon. However, what I am about to write is extremely difficult for me but feel I must write this as my very first post on the new platform so people will understand where I am coming from.
In November 2014, my son, Brandon, suddenly and unexpected passed away in his sleep. I was in shock and disbelief and I just couldn’t grasp the reality of it all. It didn’t make any sense and I didn’t think it was real, but unfortunately it was. Even today, one and a half years later, I sometimes forget and call Brandon and I can’t wait to hear his voice. Then I am quickly reminded of reality.
If you are a special needs parent you know that we spend much more time with our special needs children than our typical children. I had spent a lot of time with Brandon even when he was an adult and living on his own. We would talk almost every day. I would see him often to help him with his errands and enjoy a meal together face to face.
Brandon passed away when he was 41 years old. I am grateful that he was able to live his dream: to live independently for the last 17 years of his life, even when the professionals deemed it impossible.
I would like to leave you with an important message–“Do all you can while you can.” I believe that was the very best thing I did the entire time Brandon was alive.
Ten days after Brandon died, the city of Santa Monica, where Brandon lived and was a beloved resident, held a memorial service in his honor. It was an amazing event and an incredibly uplifting day.
A television station filmed a video about Brandon a year before he passed away and they attended the memorial, which is included in the video. I would very much like to share it with you all. It was truly a celebration of a young man who had so many difficulties and hurdles to get over and mountains to climb. And he did it his way. He found a place where he was not only accepted for who he was, but he was also truly loved by so many and was able to make friends by just being himself.
I am so very proud of Brandon and so happy I had those 41 years with him. He ended up being my best friend and teacher. I continue to go out and speak and share Brandon’s story. It is truly uplifting and filled with hope. To view the video and meet Brandon, please visit: www.AutismIndependenceProject.org.
Until we meet again,