Marriage and Autism

So I have wanted to write this post for a while now, but I have been thinking hard on what I was going to write.

My original title was Autism Vs Marriage, but I didn’t feel that was right. First of all, I don’t feel my son’s Autism is up against our marriage. Secondly, I didn’t want to offend anyone because this can be a touchy subject.

Those who follow my blog know I am an honest person. I tell it like it is, and I hide nothing. So, with that in mind, here goes:

Our marriage is FAR from PERFECT. As a matter of fact, we tend to argue~ a lot. You see, hubs is the authoritarian, and I am well… I am the sucker. Thing is, I have read all the books, I follow all the blogs, and when Liam is behaving a certain way, and hubs gets on him, I am quick to defend. I don’t like to do that. I don’t. However, if a behavior is Autism related, I make no qualms about letting hubs know. This does cause issues in our marriage. He gets upset with me. He thinks I baby Liam. I get upset because I think he needs to educate himself more…..This is where Autism causes a rift in our marriage…..Also, let’s face it, it’s stressful. The meltdowns, the lack of sleep, the obsessions…..the list goes on…. Hubs and I haven’t even slept in the same room, in I think 4 years!!! We didn’t sleep in the same bed because of his back problems, and he would toss and turn a lot, but then I had to sleep in Liam’s room because it was the only way for any of us to get any sleep. So now, Liam and I have a bedroom with our own beds, and hubs has his own room. NOT your typical marriage, but hey, it works for us.

My mom reads this blog, so I am not even going into the sex issue. I’m just not. (you’re welcome momma :)) I will share this pic though because it’s perfect for what I want to say……Just scroll past it momma 😉

For all of these reasons, Autism has put a strain on our marriage, BUT……it has also strengthened it.

Autism has also made our marriage stronger. In the almost 8 years we have been married, we have been through a lot. A hurricane, hub’s back problems, his 2 major surgeries, Liam and Autism, myself and Fibromyalgia…It hasn’t been an easy life, but it’s our life. Autism has taught us to stick together. To stand up for Liam and to educate others about Autism. It has helped us stand together to fight for what Liam needs and deserves. Autism has done all this for our marriage….So while I can say it has made it harder,  it has also made it stronger……I guess I am on the fence with this…..

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Courtney

A Legion for Liam

I am a SAHM. I prefer domestic goddess, but whatever. My son Liam is autistic and is the child I was told I would never have. He is MY MIRACLE! These are our stories.