Constructive Confrontation
One fine day recently on the Metro (DC area commuter train/subway) :
Young “man” and a young woman kissing. He seems just a bit more eager than she is, judging from her facial expression.
The young male puts his hand partially around the young woman’s throat.
I look at them – especially the male – pointedly and ask “Is there a problem?”
It’s likely that he’s trying to hurt or coerce her – but not a sure thing. All I know is what I’ve seen in the last couple of minutes. So I don’t make accusations I can’t prove.
What I’m doing is letting him know that someone else – who may be willing and able to intervene in some way – is watching, and doesn’t necessarily approve.
The young man removes his hand from her throat. They begin kissing again, and she doesn’t (seem to) feel anxious anymore. Things seem better, at least until I get off the train.
You might face such a situation yourself. Do you want to have to choose between standing by as someone’s getting hurt and overreacting?
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I have Asperger Syndrome (AS) and give inspirational talks, consult with organizations and train people on how to recognize and work well with people on the spectrum and coach individuals on and off the spectrum.
