Continuing to Learn as a Mom

 

Yesterday, I met Brandon for lunch.  It was a sizzling 105 degree day.  Most people I know don’t like it that hot and Brandon and I would have to agree with them. 

When Brandon got in my car he couldn’t stop talking about the heat and how hot he was. I looked at him and he was dressed in a pair of shorts and a light short sleeve shirt and then I noticed he had a very heavy, hooded winter sweatshirt tied around his waist.

I said, “Brandon, you might want to take off your sweatshirt, as it is heavy and is causing you to feel even warmer.”  He said, “Mom, Don’t tell me what to do – I am not a baby.”  Then, he gave me the look to leave him alone.   I didn’t say another word about his sweatshirt until he repeated himself about twenty five more times,  “I can’t stand the heat anymore.” I said,  “Brandon, try to take off your sweatshirt and see if it makes a difference, you can always put it back on.” He shot me another look of leave me alone and begrudgingly took off his sweatshirt and said, “Mom, it’s a little cooler.”

 

While lying in bed that night I gave it a lot of thought why Brandon was so unwilling to give up his sweatshirt.  Then it hit me!  He always wears a sweatshirt, because he lives down by the beach.  I believe it is similar to a security blanket.  He likes being prepared and if he is out for a long period of time and the weather changes, he has a sweatshirt to keep him warm.

Being respectful, and accepting the way people do things differently is extremely important.  As you can see, after being on the autism path with Brandon for over thirty-seven years, I am still learning.

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Amalia Starr
Mother to an independent autistic adult son, Motivational Speaker, Author, and Founder of the Autism Independence Foundation. Book Amalia to speak, call 800-939-1046 or attend one of her conferences or training.
Amalia Starr

Amalia Starr

Mother to an independent autistic adult son, Motivational Speaker, Author, and Founder of the Autism Independence Foundation. Book Amalia to speak, call 800-939-1046 or attend one of her conferences or training.

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  • October 14, 2010 at 10:51 pm
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    Thank You! It is most unfortunate that people with special needs are not often treated with respect. Is it because people think they can get away with it?  Whatever the reason is we all deserve to be treated kindly and be respectful of one another. I teach this to professionals who work with our special needs kids. It has made a huge difference.  We need to treat people the way we would like to be treated.

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  • October 14, 2010 at 2:28 pm
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    Thanks Amelia,

     Love this post and your beautiful message to all…”Being respectful, and accepting the way people do things differently is extremely important.” Lorna d’Entremont

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  • October 13, 2010 at 10:35 pm
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    Thank you!  I speak as often as I can in the autism arena.  I love what I do. 

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  • October 12, 2010 at 11:46 pm
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    Y’know, we really could’ve used someone like you down at my old school.

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